if u have a surface level relationship that u think it's time to deepen, have a frank conversation in which you say " i have really appreciated out friendship. We gotten to know each other and developed trust over the months. But now i think it's time that we go beneath the surface . I'm willing to promise confidentiality , to accept you for who you are , to stick by you, and to be honest about who i am. So what would you say about us really opening up our lives to each other- for the sake of us both?"

if there's agreement , begin to risk vulnerabiity a step at a time. and when your friend recipocates, listen intently, empathize, offer encouragement . Evaluate as you go. Work together to gradually develop a safe place where each of you feels the freedom to be honest about your emotions, your struggles , your doubts , your fears, and your aspirations.

again think thru your database of relationships, identify some of your most promising friendships. is it possible that a surface-level acquaintance of yours may be secretly waiting for u to make the first move on the journey toward a ore authentic relationship? if so, take a risk! make a call. get together.

Go ahead- make a break!