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My 1st criteria still stands... must be christian... but i have found a breakthru today...
I have found the word... the key word is NOT spiritual maturity... it is spiritual COMPATIBILITY .... the other person must be able to share a life with me in love, honesty and growth... it is so liberating to have finally found the term that i can express myself...

another question that strikes me... is your partner leading a double life? meaning what he is in spiritual realms , does he bring it to his actual life? does he walk the talk? are there signposts in his life that points to jesus??? is he an inspiration to both christian and non-christian?

does he loves the community? not just the christian one, but also the bigger social circle at large... is she an alien or a accommodator? again, this points to BALANCE.

slowly , i am been brought to level ground again, i can start seeing things clearly... if the person is taken, do not be dismayed, because you never really know how things work out... similarly, if one is not taken, it is not a finished story yet. I start to throw myself radically into God's hands... and just leave it with him... one may found one that fits the criteria, BUT somehow it may not be God's will to put them together... love is really just hard to explain or predict... well... what i SHOULD do now is just to trust him and develop strong friendships with everyone, sisters or brothers alike.... i discover that those who manipulate, deceive or put up a false front is just second-guessing God's plan.... trying to see if God's plan somehow fit into their desired plan... these people may get the result but not for long.... an honest, loving and growing relationship will set one free...