The Best Way To Ask A Woman Out

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for all my lonely ppl out there...


Do you have "negative emotions" come up when
you think of approaching women, asking them
out, or taking things to a "physical level"?
If you think that you might need a little
"extra" help in this area, then take a minute
and read THIS:

Deep Inner Game

I have a question for you...

When you get a woman's number and you're
picking up the phone to call and "ask her out",
does it bother you?

Do you get freaked out?

Do you start thinking about exactly what you're
going to say, how you're going to say it, how to
deal with her rejecting you... etc.?

Do you ever get NERVOUS when you're dialing the
phone?

You know that feeling when you just start
getting anxious for no logical reason, and you
just CAN'T control it?

Have you ever had to actually HANG UP because
you were so damn freaked out... and you just
couldn't follow through with it?

OK, now another set of interesting questions...

Have you ever called a woman, and started
talking to her, only to realize that she was in a
COMPLETELY different mood from the last time?

Have you ever had a woman "turn cold" on you
all of a sudden?

It's almost like you're talking to a different
person from the girl you met just a day or two
before... and it makes no sense to you... right?

And finally...

Have you ever worked up the nerve to call,
gotten her on the phone, had a great conversation,
but when it came time to ask her out, you froze up
because you didn't know what to say?

Or even worse, have you ever gotten to the end
of the conversation and asked her out, only to
have her answer with:

"Well, maybe... call me Friday afternoon... OK?"

or...

"Actually, I'm going to be busy all this week, but
thanks for asking... (silence)"...?

Have you ever had one of those conversations
where you could just TELL that something wasn't
right... and that she wasn't going to be taking
you up on your date offer, or calling you back at
all anytime soon?

So why all the problems?

What is it about these particular few minutes
that constantly ends in problems for guys?

I personally think that this issue comes down
to a few key DEEPER ISSUES.

And I think that if you don't have these other
issues "handled", you're going to keep running
into problems... and NEVER even know WHY...

...which sucks.

I mean, it's bad enough to keep having a
particular problem and not figure out how to solve
it... but the idea that the solution is in doing
something you would never think of is a little bit
maddening.

In other words, I think that this is all about
understanding the problem, and actually PREVENTING
it from coming up... rather than trying to "solve
it" in the moment.

Let me put it this way...

If you're dialing the phone, and you're
starting to feel nervous, then it's already too
late to solve the problem.

No quick fix will help you.

Or if you're on the phone with her and you have
just asked her out on a date, and she says "Um,
let me call you back in a few days and tell
you"... and you start to get that sinking feeling
because you know she's blowing you off... IT'S TOO
LATE.

There's no "magic pill" at this point.

The answer is PREVENTION.


THE MAGIC FORMULA

So, let's take a few minutes and talk about the
issues and what CAUSES them.

Here are some of the "root causes", and how I
see them...

1) Having no other options.

If you're sitting at the phone with ONE phone
number in your hand, and you haven't been out on a
date in a long time, and you are feeling
DESPERATE, you're probably going to get VERY
nervous.

When you have no other options, the single one
in front of you becomes VERY valuable.

Translation: You want it TOO badly.

This AUTOMATICALLY triggers your emotional
system, because at some level you realize that if
you screw this up, it's all over. And you know
that it's all going to happen in just a few
SECONDS.

The pressure is too much!

2) Putting too much importance on a single girl.

Now, if you have a girl that you've been dating
for six months, and you've decided that she's one
in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of
importance on your relationship with her.

But, if you don't know a girl very well, or you
haven't even dated her at all, then you are only
setting yourself up for major disappointment by
putting too much importance on ANY girl.

3) Thinking you need to IMPRESS her.

This is a HUGE issue.

Most men "subconsciously" behave and
communicate like they're trying to IMPRESS the
woman of their desires.

When you think about this, it only makes
sense... of course you'd want to impress the woman
you like... so she'll think you're a cool guy and
want to be with you.

But have you ever thought for a moment how an
interesting, attractive woman sees it when a guy
is TRYING to IMPRESS her?

Well, here's the INSTANT and SUBCONSCIOUS
response that women have:

"He's trying too hard. There's something wrong.
This guy must have something he's trying to
hide... and he must be pretty insecure."

In other words, the INSTANT you do something or
say something that is an obvious attempt at
impressing a woman, her radar system screams:

"WUSSY!"

By the way, this is really a much DEEPER issue.
If you need to "evict your inner wussy", then
take a second and read THIS:

On Being A Man

4) Having expectations and being attached to them.

You might think of this one as a variation of
"wanting it too much"... only slightly different.

When you start getting your hopes and
expectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED to
them.

Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT
to your little fantasy.

Bad idea.

Women don't date guys who assume too much, act
too comfortable, or fall for them too quickly.

Remember, beautiful women have guys falling for
them left and right.

In fact, they almost EXPECT to go out on
one or two dates with a guy and then say, "You
know, I really like you..." or some other equally
predictable sentiment.

Just like being desperate can destroy your
chances with a woman, liking a woman too much, too
fast and creating expectations leads to crazy,
stupid mistakes as well.

Now, think over what I just said...

I'm basically saying that if you want to cure
the problem of freaking out when you call women to
ask them out and the problem of screwing it up
when you have that first conversation and ask them
out the first time, then you have to go INSIDE
first... and do some preventative maintenance on
yourself.

And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is not
only good for you, it also helps you get even MORE
dates with interesting women.

So, here's what to do about this particular
problem:

1) Get more options.

If you go out one evening with a couple of
friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl... and you
wind up having a fun conversation and getting her
number, what should you do?

RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl's number.
More, if you can.

This way, when you're picking up the phone to
call (or sending out emails, or whatever), you've
got another woman to call right after her...

In other words, if it doesn't go well, no big
deal. No sweat at all.

Instead of putting all your "hopes" in this one
situation, go get more options... this will
prevent many problems as well as giving you more
women to date!

And think about it... when are you MOST likely
to get a woman's phone number? When are you most
likely to be in a great mood that actually
ATTRACTS women?

Exactly... in the moments after you've already
gotten another woman's number.

So take advantage of this time!

2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out
with this girl.

I have news for you: Most women have something
about their personality, behavior, future plans,
etc. that is going to disqualify them from being
good "potential mates" for you.

Now, I'm not saying that "all women are screwed
up", etc.

What I AM saying is that you need to realize
that the only reason you're freaking out so much
is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.

You need to think about how rare it is that you
actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with
you... that you'd enjoy spending time with even if
she wasn't good-looking.

If you have this in mind as you're dialing the
phone, you won't have that "I'm desperate" vibe
going on.

You won't be talking like a guy who has a gun
to his head either... which is a good thing...
because women get weirded out by this kind of
thing.

3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what
you're doing, and then tell her she can come along
if she wants.

Why is "asking a woman out" early on a bad
idea? Because if you don't have a world-class
understanding of male/female dynamics, you're
going to come across as a guy who is trying to use
food as date-bait.

In other words, if the first thing out of your
mouth is "I'd like to take you out to dinner" it's
going to be interpreted as "I don't think you're
probably going to accept an invitation to spend
time with me unless I throw in something
extra...".

Weak.

And that's how SHE sees it.

The alternative?

Tell her that you're going to be doing
something and that she should join you.

"Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks and get
a cup of tea. You should join me. I'm way more fun
than whatever else you were going to do... and
that's a fact!"

Extra bonus points:

Hint that she's missing out if she doesn't
accept immediately.

If she hems and haws, or hesitates... just
interrupt and say, "Hey, you're the one who's
missing out".

I also like "You know, never mind. I guess you
don't like to have fun...".

Great stuff!

This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it's
the right time to use it.

You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked
out when calling women for the first time on the
phone... and "asking them out".

Now that I understand this particular "moment
in time" better, and now that I understand more of
the "dynamics" of what's going on, I get MUCH
better results personally...

In fact, I never get "nervous" anymore when
calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman
"flake out" on me.

Now, in this newsletter I've shared a few
points to help you get better results in this
particular area. Use them. They'll definitely help
you.

You should read this newsletter right before
you call every one of the next 10 women you
meet... in fact.

But as you can probably tell, this is just one
of MANY important facets of success with women.

In fact, this is just scratching the surface of
the skills you'll need if you want to have
CONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women.

The reality of this situation is that if you
want to take control of this area of your life
and not walk helpless with women anymore, you're
going to need to take more steps to get yourself
educated on this topic.

And what's the best way to do that quickly,
easily and without spending years of time and
lots of money learning the HARD WAY?